Today I attend a Life Coach for a much-needed, sort of dreaded business coaching session. We speak about timelines and deadlines. The Life Coach draws a “To-Do” box on the whiteboard. We also discuss ideas, fears and things that are weighing me down.
I confess that I’ve really been beating up on myself lately. I’ve been comparing myself unfavourably to others, calling myself names and believing that I’m “less than”. My mean streak is at a peak.
Towards the end of the session, I’m experiencing anxiety and my head hurts. The Life Coach asks me what I believe the pain in my head signifies.
“Pressure,” I answer.
He then asks me:
“What do you need to put in the “To-Do” box?”
Without hesitation, I answer:
“I need to love myself.”
“That’s a big one,” he smiles.
“Yes,” I reply as tears fill my eyes.
“When I’m not loving myself, it’s not just affecting my business. It’s influencing how I relate to life. It’s impacting on my enjoyment of every moment. It’s changing how I feel in my relationship. It’s altering how I am with friends and how I react in all of my activities.”
“Can you hear yourself,” the Life Coach asks.
“I hope you write about this and share it with everyone you know.”
I exhale deeply. I feel relieved. It’s so obvious, so simple, something I already know.
But I needed reminding. I needed to feel this anxiety, this pain and this pressure to understand that I haven’t been loving myself.
I acknowledge how far I’ve come. And I’m grateful for this experience as it’s showing me that I still have work to do. This time at a deeper level.
Yes, I could fill a whole notebook with To-Do lists and I have and will again. But when I’m not loving myself, I become paralysed with fear. I lack confidence, trust and self-belief.
When I don’t love myself, I can’t accept love from anyone else. I don’t see myself as deserving of all the good things in life.
However, when I love myself, I’m present. I enjoy the moment. I know that I’m safe. I can see that I’m capable, amazing even. I’m loving and loveable.
When I love myself, fearful projections transform into exciting projects. I’m filled with inspiration, enthusiasm, positive energy and hope. When I love myself, I’m happy and in the flow.
So for now, I have one task on my To-Do list: To love myself.
I challenge you to do the same. Let’s witness miracles at what unfolds from here…