Being single does not translate as “looking for a partner”. In the words of The Pussycat Dolls (this blog really is high-brow stuff), “I don’t need a man to make me feel good.”
Just because I’m single doesn’t mean I’m available. I want to be sure of myself and my own self-worth before exchanging digits (or body fluids) with some randomer. I want to love and accept myself completely instead of inviting someone else in to do it for me. I’ve got to really know myself and be who I am (and proud of it) before I can meet the right man for me.
If I put myself out there prematurely, I run the risk of getting into the wrong type of relationship. One that will bring me soaring up in the honeymoon stage before crash landing back to reality. Somebody’s bound to get hurt. Been there, done that, bought the self-help book.
We only attract in what we’re projecting out. So, if you’re feeling needy or unattractive or if you’re beating yourself up over anything and everything, you will surely manifest a relationship with someone controlling or critical or angry (or how about all of the above?)
“If you aren’t happy being single, you will never be happy in a relationship. Get your own life and love it first, then share it.” Unknown author
So for now, I’m tentatively entering into a healthy relationship with myself. A romance that’s guaranteed to last a life-time. It’s uncharted territory, folks. But it’s so worthwhile.
So, be grateful for this time you now have to work on yourself and what makes you happy. Giggle with friends over enormous frothy cappuccinos. Take long walks by the coast. Read. Focus on your passion. Start classes in yoga or art or drama. Dance the night away. Go on a skiing or writers’ holiday. Drive somewhere you’ve never been before, with the windows down and your favourite tunes banging. Just because you’re still single doesn’t mean you’re destined to suffer a long, lonely existence with only your cats and knitting needles for company.
Know that you owe it to yourself to experience self-love first.
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My wife & I have been together for nearly 12 years & we didn’t really hit our stride until we learned who we were WITHOUT each other. You have to have your own identity before you can give someone else your all!!
Spot on! Thanks for sharing.
And happy for you and your wife 🙂
It is incredibly refreshing to hear a woman view being single in this light in a sea of depressed and needy blogs. Women of the world take notice.
Glad you liked it 🙂
I really needed this post today. Thank you for writing it, lovely! Happy Thanksgiving. ❤
You’re welcome, Jaclyn. Glad it helped.
Oh yeah, it’s Thanksgiving tomorrow? Have a lovely day!
Lots of love
I say this to so many women! Let go of it all and find happiness in your heart. Your inner joy at being YOU! Only then will you be in the right place to welcome love into your life. Because its your love of yourself (and I don’t mean in the conceited way) which will ultimately make you irresistible to the right person
You are so right. Thanks for your wise words, Morgan. 🙂
this is really excellence ..
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