Today’s post is inspired by this year’s dose of The Late Late Toy Show because it got me thinking about a plethora of other pleasures, in which I regularly (albeit guiltily) indulge…
Starbucks… Red wine…
Lady Gaga videos… One Direction…
I won't divulge why I like them. For legal reasons...
Reruns of The Holiday and Bridget Jones’ Diary…
Gazing at cupcakes that are too pretty to eat… Eating them.
Sun holidays – I know I could be sight-seeing but even applying sun lotion is EFFORT…
Skipping class and taking my little sister to the seaside instead…
Reality TV… Duvet days…
Losing myself in a novel when I really should be studying…
Blabbing about all this even though I’m A) embarrassing myself on an international public forum and B) denying myself some much-needed beauty sleep… So come on, make a girl feel better and fill us in on some of your guilty pleasures…
Wasting the day googling random images is another one...
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Being single does not translate as “looking for a partner”. In the words of The Pussycat Dolls (this blog really is high-brow stuff), “I don’t need a man to make me feel good.”
Just because I’m single doesn’t mean I’m available. I want to be sure of myself and my own self-worth before exchanging digits (or body fluids) with some randomer. I want to love and accept myself completely instead of inviting someone else in to do it for me. I’ve got to really know myself and be who I am (and proud of it) before I can meet the right man for me.
If I put myself out there prematurely, I run the risk of getting into the wrong type of relationship. One that will bring me soaring up in the honeymoon stage before crash landing back to reality. Somebody’s bound to get hurt. Been there, done that, bought the self-help book.
We only attract in what we’re projecting out. So, if you’re feeling needy or unattractive or if you’re beating yourself up over anything and everything, you will surely manifest a relationship with someone controlling or critical or angry (or how about all of the above?)
“If you aren’t happy being single, you will never be happy in a relationship. Get your own life and love it first, then share it.” Unknown author
So for now, I’m tentatively entering into a healthy relationship with myself. A romance that’s guaranteed to last a life-time. It’s uncharted territory, folks. But it’s so worthwhile.
So, be grateful for this time you now have to work on yourself and what makes you happy. Giggle with friends over enormous frothy cappuccinos. Take long walks by the coast. Read. Focus on your passion. Start classes in yoga or art or drama. Dance the night away. Go on a skiing or writers’ holiday. Drive somewhere you’ve never been before, with the windows down and your favourite tunes banging. Just because you’re still single doesn’t mean you’re destined to suffer a long, lonely existence with only your cats and knitting needles for company.
Know that you owe it to yourself to experience self-love first.
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Posted in Love, Personal development
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Okay, aside from a little bit of Oooh Aaah Paul McGrath, if you know what I mean (I realise that my foreign readers won’t get the embarrassing rhyming reference to getting jiggy with it), here’s a contented-sigh-inducing list of things that make me go Aahhhh….
That first slug of tea after a long day The climax of a favourite tune
"Life is too short to drink from an ugly cup." jAne at Tickleberry Farm
The first holiday glimpse of the ocean Writing something beautiful
Surrendering my weight into a comfortable bed
Sliding into a hot bubble bath The tightest of bear hugs
Reading the first page of a novel and knowing that this book is going to rock
Taking time out in nature The sound of rain beating off a tin roof
*Snow Magic by TORI STEFFEN
WAKING UP TO AN INCREDIBLE SNOW SCENE Swimming solo
The sky in all its forms and shades and PaTteRn$
Beauty… from nature to a photograph to a piece of music to a particularly pleasing male form…
Freewheeling after cycling up a steep incline
Sunshine on my skin Newly changed bedclothes
The scent of yellow furze and freshly cut grass
The blast of hot air as I step off the plane in an exciting foreign location
Lighting a candle just because…
The first gasp of breath after an extraordinary belly laugh
Now, do fill me in on some of the things that make you go Aahhhh…
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Tagged art, beauty, bed, books, bubble bath, comfort, cycling, exercise, gratitude, handsome, holidays, jAne at Tickleberry Farm, laughter, literature, men, music, nature, ocean, paul mcgrath, photography, rain, reading, scenes, sky, sleep, snow, sunshine, swimming, tea, writing